"Everyone else matters." Matt Capucilli had a dream that his late brother David said this to him. The dream came just hours after Dave died. The life Matt's brother led made a lasting impression.
"We live in a society that is constantly trying to trick us into self-centeredness, but Dave saw right through that," said Matt as he delivered Words of Remembrance during his older brother's funeral. "He knew what it meant to give and to put others first. He had the rare ability to consider someone else's position before his own. He once gave up his birthday so he could raise money to build a well for people he never met who were living on another continent. He was a shining example of generosity."
David Capucilli, 37, died suddenly and unexpectedly last November, about a month after he was diagnosed as having multiple myeloma, a cancer of the blood that develops in the bone marrow. Dave was in good health, a triathlete and one of the youngest people his doctor treated for this disease. His doctor expected him to be in full remission by this past spring. He died just two and a half weeks into treatment.
"Dave was an admirable person," his father Dennis Capucilli said in a recent interview with the Messenger. "He was impressive. He was a very humble person. The magnitude of his loss ... We're getting cards from all over the world ... a sympathy card from Qatar. We don't even know who these people are."
More than 100 cars were queued at Our Lady of Peace Cemetery in Baldwinsville, the day of his funeral.
"He carried himself in such a way, people who met him just once, they remembered him," Dennis Capucilli said. "He had this ability, which we've seen written several times, if he was with you, he had the gift of making you feel like you were the most important person in the world when he was with you. That's not easy to do."